Do you find yourself in a relationship that seems to be drying up? Do you feel like you need to know how to save a marriage? If so, consider the love relationship advice in the following steps.
1. Date your partner.
Do you still remember your first date with the person you really liked or fell in love with? Were you not excited about it? Sure you were! Do you want to know how an exciting relationship can help you enhance your marriage? Let us tell you that the excitement we had on our first date is still very vivid in our minds. Perhaps we may not remember all the details, but we surely cannot forget how we felt. All our attention was towards each other and as the saying goes, 'the world seemed to have stopped.' And we wished the night would never end.
Well then, continue to date your partner - reliving those moments to keep the freshness and closeness of your relationship. An exciting relationship can continue to inspire both of you. It's a precious moment where you both can freely communicate - leaving behind daily work, chores, and problems. It's a time to relax and just enjoy each other's presence after a busy week.
Consider this love relationship advice: My wife and I go out a least once a week to our favorite coffee shops, where we like to dream-build. We also know of another couple -friends of ours - who say that Friday night is their night out together. They normally have dinner and watch a movie afterwards. They will not accept any appointments or invitations from anyone on Friday nights.
2. Take time to give your partner a call during the day.
Once again, I remember the days when I was courting my wife. The phone was glued to my ear. It was difficult to say goodbye on the phone. Every chance I got, I would try to call her, and her voice was music to my soul. Haven't you experienced this? Sure you have! Now, after being married for many years, in spite of my busy schedule in the office I still will take a break to call my wife from the office just to greet her.
3. Send SMS messages.
The majority of people today have mobile phones. This is a great tool for us to send greetings or sayings to our loved ones. We can sometimes be so caught up in the rat race that it takes all of our time. With a mobile phone, there is no excuse not to send a message or call our loved one using this great invention of communication - even when we may not have the time to buy a card from the bookstore. More simple but effective love relationship advice!
4. Always look good for your partner; don't be sloppy.
When I was courting my wife, I remember how I tried to look my best for her. I stayed long in front of the mirror to make sure everything was in the right place; I saw to it that my clothes had the right color combination, that they were ironed well, etc.
Have you watched movies or read comics that portray married people where, after many years, the wife dresses sloppily at home with curlers in her hair and wears a loose house-dress? The husband doesn't shave daily and wears his favorite torn t-shirt? This definitely removes the romance between them. We have heard a lot of couples complain about this - and also complain that their partners don't keep their figures in shape anymore. They make the excuse that the other should accept him or her, as they promised in their marriage, for better or worse.
Don't do this to one another. Always look your best - to make your partner happy and 'only have eyes for you'.
5. Jot down important dates such as birthdays, anniversaries, etc.
This may seem insignificant to many, but it is a big thing, especially for wives. Women in general are very sentimental. I remember my sister-in-law's experience in their first year of marriage. Her husband one day asked her the date of her birthday because he needed it for a document. This made her furious because she couldn't believe he didn't remember! It wasn't a big deal for my brother-in-law, but that created their first big fight. For the wife, it was inconceivable that if he loved her, he would forget this date. From that time on, he made sure to send her flowers or at least give her a birthday card.
It's always nice to give surprises on special occasions. They don't have to be expensive: it's the thought that counts.
Monday, May 28, 2007
Tuesday, April 3, 2007
Relationships- Avoid These Mistakes
Relationships are difficult to sustain. Very few relationships sustain for long with both partners totally happy. Most people carry through a relationship without any joy. What can be done to keep a relationship strong and joyous? Avoid these common mistakes.
Romance is not the end of all. You cannot paper over vital differences by sending a flower a day. Sometimes, a partner begs for love. That also does not work. Be romantic, but discuss everything that may be going wrong with your partner.
Many of you are in a hurry to develop a relationship. That fails most of the times. Unless you give time to make it mature on its own, it will not work. Like wine, let it mature. it will taste better.
Asking and not giving is another bane. While expecting so many things from your partner, you should try and find out what you are giving in return. No one-sided relationship works.
Romance is not the end of all. You cannot paper over vital differences by sending a flower a day. Sometimes, a partner begs for love. That also does not work. Be romantic, but discuss everything that may be going wrong with your partner.
Many of you are in a hurry to develop a relationship. That fails most of the times. Unless you give time to make it mature on its own, it will not work. Like wine, let it mature. it will taste better.
Asking and not giving is another bane. While expecting so many things from your partner, you should try and find out what you are giving in return. No one-sided relationship works.
The top 3 tips to be a player
This one is just dirty
Tease her with attention. While you are macking on a particular girl, go away after you've talked for a while and begin talking to someone else, just say to her "I need to dissapear for a bit, I'll be back". Try to make it a male friend that you go talk to, or she will think your a player... (let's make that OUR secret, ok?). This will drive her crazy, and if you've made a decent impression on her, she won't be able to think of anything except you... and when you are going to come back. Some of the bolder females out there may even come and butt into your new conversation. However, if she does not, go back after a short period of time and you will notice that she will be ten times more into you than she was before!
The seductive smile...
Upon making eye contact with a woman that you are interested in, always smile. I'm not talking about one of those huge "say cheese" smiles, rather a smirk (maybe a little bit more than a smirk) that says "I'm happy you've looked at me". Once smiling, hold the gaze for 1-2 seconds, then look away. After looking away, try to get her to make eye contact with you again, if this happens go over and talk to her, because her second look was your invitation.
You've got nothing to lose
The guy who gets rejected the most is the guy who will leave with the most numbers! Quit being scared of rejection and just get out there and do it. The trick is to not think about it, if you start thinking "Should I talk to her or not?" then you will talk yourself out of it. Think about it this way, if you talk to her you might have a 50% chance of being rejected and a 50% chance of success, but if you don't talk to her you have a 0% chance of success. If you don't initiate the conversation it will most likely never take place!
Tease her with attention. While you are macking on a particular girl, go away after you've talked for a while and begin talking to someone else, just say to her "I need to dissapear for a bit, I'll be back". Try to make it a male friend that you go talk to, or she will think your a player... (let's make that OUR secret, ok?). This will drive her crazy, and if you've made a decent impression on her, she won't be able to think of anything except you... and when you are going to come back. Some of the bolder females out there may even come and butt into your new conversation. However, if she does not, go back after a short period of time and you will notice that she will be ten times more into you than she was before!
The seductive smile...
Upon making eye contact with a woman that you are interested in, always smile. I'm not talking about one of those huge "say cheese" smiles, rather a smirk (maybe a little bit more than a smirk) that says "I'm happy you've looked at me". Once smiling, hold the gaze for 1-2 seconds, then look away. After looking away, try to get her to make eye contact with you again, if this happens go over and talk to her, because her second look was your invitation.
You've got nothing to lose
The guy who gets rejected the most is the guy who will leave with the most numbers! Quit being scared of rejection and just get out there and do it. The trick is to not think about it, if you start thinking "Should I talk to her or not?" then you will talk yourself out of it. Think about it this way, if you talk to her you might have a 50% chance of being rejected and a 50% chance of success, but if you don't talk to her you have a 0% chance of success. If you don't initiate the conversation it will most likely never take place!
Sunday, February 25, 2007
How to be a top flirt?
FLIRTING: "To play at love, without serious intentions." It is often done to arouse sexual interest in another person. Flirting is fun; it is just kidding around. Have the intention of fun and nothing else. It is not serious, so you cant do anything wrong! It is kind of a joke about what they're doing; with which you tease them and kid them about. Remember: You dont have to do the right thing, because you are just kidding.
Your FRAME OF MIND is very important in flirting. Don't try to be a flirt. Skills of flirting come automatically to you from your sub-consciousness if you just loosen yourself and have a positive approach of mind.
Flirting Tips
1. Focus outward. Keep your attention outside yourself, toward a particular flirting target or toward the general social environment. You can't flirt while you're self-absorbed.
2. While flirting, follow up with a helpful comment. That helps them know you are kind, not just light-heartedly rude.
3. Body Language: Straighten up, good posture, shoulders relaxed, arms uncrossed, lean forward slightly.
4. Have fun. Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.
5. Compliment. Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The "flirtee" will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment the best response is merely to say Thank You!
6. Use your eyes. Whether in conversation or across the room, look at your target's eyes a little longer than necessary, and keep a small smile on your own face while you do that.
7. Smile. It is contagious. It will make you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you.
Your FRAME OF MIND is very important in flirting. Don't try to be a flirt. Skills of flirting come automatically to you from your sub-consciousness if you just loosen yourself and have a positive approach of mind.
Flirting Tips
1. Focus outward. Keep your attention outside yourself, toward a particular flirting target or toward the general social environment. You can't flirt while you're self-absorbed.
2. While flirting, follow up with a helpful comment. That helps them know you are kind, not just light-heartedly rude.
3. Body Language: Straighten up, good posture, shoulders relaxed, arms uncrossed, lean forward slightly.
4. Have fun. Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.
5. Compliment. Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The "flirtee" will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment the best response is merely to say Thank You!
6. Use your eyes. Whether in conversation or across the room, look at your target's eyes a little longer than necessary, and keep a small smile on your own face while you do that.
7. Smile. It is contagious. It will make you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you.
Best Romantic Ideas
1. Get tulips and attach this note: "I've got two-lips waiting for you!"
2. On a special occasion, buy your partner eleven real red roses and one artificial red rose. Place the artificial rose in the center of the bouquet. Attach a card that says:“I will love you until the last rose fades.”
3. If your partner is going away for a few days, tell her that you are worried about
her so you have organized a bodyguard to look after her. Then give her a
small teddy bear.
4. Write him/her a check for one million kisses.
5. Take a book that your partner is reading and using a pencil, underline letters in a section of the book she has yet to read to spell out a love letter. For example in any exert from a novel, you may underline the letters so that the underlined letters come together to spell out your secret message. That secret message may be "I love you" or "Honey, you are my life" or anything you want.
The underlined letters will make your partner curious and with a bit of luck she will write them down to decode your special message.
6. Buy a packet of glow in the dark stars and stick the stars on the roof above
your bed to spell out a message such as "I Love You" When the lights go
down, your message will be revealed!
7. Buy a tree with your partner and plant it in a special spot. Each year on your
anniversary, have a glass of champagne next to your tree and talk about how
your love and the tree have grown.
2. On a special occasion, buy your partner eleven real red roses and one artificial red rose. Place the artificial rose in the center of the bouquet. Attach a card that says:“I will love you until the last rose fades.”
3. If your partner is going away for a few days, tell her that you are worried about
her so you have organized a bodyguard to look after her. Then give her a
small teddy bear.
4. Write him/her a check for one million kisses.
5. Take a book that your partner is reading and using a pencil, underline letters in a section of the book she has yet to read to spell out a love letter. For example in any exert from a novel, you may underline the letters so that the underlined letters come together to spell out your secret message. That secret message may be "I love you" or "Honey, you are my life" or anything you want.
The underlined letters will make your partner curious and with a bit of luck she will write them down to decode your special message.
6. Buy a packet of glow in the dark stars and stick the stars on the roof above
your bed to spell out a message such as "I Love You" When the lights go
down, your message will be revealed!
7. Buy a tree with your partner and plant it in a special spot. Each year on your
anniversary, have a glass of champagne next to your tree and talk about how
your love and the tree have grown.
Monday, February 19, 2007
How to use non-verbal communication to flirt and express your personal traits
People often view flirting and revealing their personal traits along the way as a big step that one doesn’t enter into lightly. And that’s mostly true if you’re making your first intimate relationship with the opposite sex, or you’ve been single for a long time.
Use non-verbal communication for attracting women
However one thing people often do not consider is simply being yourself will make you seem most natural.
The closest that you can come to being natural is to use non-verbal communication. You can definitely change what is natural.
Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills:
1. Use non-verbal communication to express your personal traits
2. Identify your personality traits - figure out how to apply it to flirting
3. Know to initiate flirting - direct approach
So, let's evaluate all-important steps one by one!
Pick the best of multitude of your personality qualities
We all have a multitude of personality qualities, each of varying power. For attracting women’s attention and hence get a chance to flirt you need to show off some of them. In certain situations, you can choose which of these traits you wish to bring out.
Bringing out a trait that you've never used in the situation before takes some work, but will eventually become natural.
Identify your personality traits - figure out how to apply it to flirting
The key to changing your social behavior is identifying your personality traits. First, figure out that you have it, and then figure out how to apply it to the situation that needs it.
Making an eye contact could be your effective way to meet women. Very son you’ll get a clue if she’s interested in your company.
Initiate flirting - direct approach
More direct approach works well if you have build up some self-confidence already. Sure it takes some practice even experience first.
You may just say something to her. If she's interested, the only thing she'll notice is that you are talking to her - you don't have to impress her with something witty and worldly.
Relationships built on initial intimacy
Gradually work up to a small bit of intimacy - a light touch, something whispered. Try to imagine how you would like her to flirt with you and then do exactly that.
Bottom line: most of the women out there are at least as nervous and shy as you are. It’s far more comfortable to sit back and wait for the first move, made by the other part. The sad thing about relationships is that you could wait for a long time.
Use non-verbal communication for attracting women
However one thing people often do not consider is simply being yourself will make you seem most natural.
The closest that you can come to being natural is to use non-verbal communication. You can definitely change what is natural.
Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills:
1. Use non-verbal communication to express your personal traits
2. Identify your personality traits - figure out how to apply it to flirting
3. Know to initiate flirting - direct approach
So, let's evaluate all-important steps one by one!
Pick the best of multitude of your personality qualities
We all have a multitude of personality qualities, each of varying power. For attracting women’s attention and hence get a chance to flirt you need to show off some of them. In certain situations, you can choose which of these traits you wish to bring out.
Bringing out a trait that you've never used in the situation before takes some work, but will eventually become natural.
Identify your personality traits - figure out how to apply it to flirting
The key to changing your social behavior is identifying your personality traits. First, figure out that you have it, and then figure out how to apply it to the situation that needs it.
Making an eye contact could be your effective way to meet women. Very son you’ll get a clue if she’s interested in your company.
Initiate flirting - direct approach
More direct approach works well if you have build up some self-confidence already. Sure it takes some practice even experience first.
You may just say something to her. If she's interested, the only thing she'll notice is that you are talking to her - you don't have to impress her with something witty and worldly.
Relationships built on initial intimacy
Gradually work up to a small bit of intimacy - a light touch, something whispered. Try to imagine how you would like her to flirt with you and then do exactly that.
Bottom line: most of the women out there are at least as nervous and shy as you are. It’s far more comfortable to sit back and wait for the first move, made by the other part. The sad thing about relationships is that you could wait for a long time.
Friday, February 16, 2007
Office Flirting: Tips, Pros and Cons
Most of companies have framed policies on relationships between the co-workers. Flirting do falls in this category. Thus, before you try flirting in the office it is always recommended to check the policies of your company otherwise you will be put into greater trouble. Though the company policies are not widely known there will be a mention of it in the employee handbook.
Whether your company has stated the co-worker relationships policies to you or has mentioned it in the handbook, it is duty to have a better understanding about the company policies. It doesn’t mean that office relationships are not bad, many of the flirting in the office have resulted in a positive end. At times the person in a relation will be leaving the company if the office policies are against such a relation.
Pros of Flirting in the Office
Flirting is expected if two people find themselves attracted to one another. In most of the times they won’t be aware that they are flirting in the office. They would have started a friendly chat and it would have ended with flirting in the office. One thing that is positive for flirting in the office is that it gives the persons more convenience since the place is more frequented. This will sure add more zing to their days and will make them to come to the office in a daily basis.
Flirting in the office boosts people with confidence and makes them to perform their duty well. If both of you don’t have dislike for flirting in the office, it is always agreeable for flirting in the office. But remember that flirting in the office does not cross the limits and develops a problem.
Cons of Flirting in the Office
Flirting in the office leads to sexual harassment in most of the cases. And sometimes it can result in the company terminating you both from the job. Sexual harassment makes the other person feel uncomfortable. Sexual harassment will lead into further investigation at your office. It is the grapevine that spreads the word of sexual harassment at office. So be careful with your actions and words since it can bring in negative results. No one said that flirting in the office is a crime, make it tailored to each situation. The positive problems of the flirting in office could affect everyone.
Whether your company has stated the co-worker relationships policies to you or has mentioned it in the handbook, it is duty to have a better understanding about the company policies. It doesn’t mean that office relationships are not bad, many of the flirting in the office have resulted in a positive end. At times the person in a relation will be leaving the company if the office policies are against such a relation.
Pros of Flirting in the Office
Flirting is expected if two people find themselves attracted to one another. In most of the times they won’t be aware that they are flirting in the office. They would have started a friendly chat and it would have ended with flirting in the office. One thing that is positive for flirting in the office is that it gives the persons more convenience since the place is more frequented. This will sure add more zing to their days and will make them to come to the office in a daily basis.
Flirting in the office boosts people with confidence and makes them to perform their duty well. If both of you don’t have dislike for flirting in the office, it is always agreeable for flirting in the office. But remember that flirting in the office does not cross the limits and develops a problem.
Cons of Flirting in the Office
Flirting in the office leads to sexual harassment in most of the cases. And sometimes it can result in the company terminating you both from the job. Sexual harassment makes the other person feel uncomfortable. Sexual harassment will lead into further investigation at your office. It is the grapevine that spreads the word of sexual harassment at office. So be careful with your actions and words since it can bring in negative results. No one said that flirting in the office is a crime, make it tailored to each situation. The positive problems of the flirting in office could affect everyone.
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