Flirting is one kind of communicative way to learn people. This kind of interaction serves to be the best way to find more essential relationship in life. Flirting is as ancient as Adam and Eve; mostly everyone may have come across such experiences. Varying according to the culture and country they live, mostly all people may have come across this kind of experience. People may have gone mad or human race would not have promulgated this extend and every human being has the urge to interact with the opposite sex.
Flirting: A base to evolution
Flirting plays an important role in evolution and many psychologist have found out that civilization takes its shape all because of flirting. Communication ability is the first thing that differentiates man from animals and language is the only mode that plays an important role in the endorsement of manners and courtship. Flirting allures everyone and entices people to fall in to a kind of world of intoxication where partners in sex. The scientific advancements are playing important role in shrinking the world into a small village and they are simply the best side effects of romance and flirting.
Everything has its own limits and manners. People who involve in flirting must know the set of manners to be followed. These are merely spoken words to do with the morale of the humankind and they are not given in the form of black and white. Even though these manners and laws are just spoken ones, people follow them without any difficulty. If such rules or laws are broken by anyone, that shows the selection of wrong person at wrong place.
Human mind is something that cannot be explored that easily. Understanding your partner is the most difficult task under the sun and only through the cues that are left by the partner you can learn him or her. Friendliness should never be mistake for sexual interest. Giving up wrong signals to others is not accepted in the highly orthodox society and society doesn’t entertain such things. Such fear in people is the reasons why few take much time to give flirtation signals soon to the opponent. Hence, the social researches are made on this field to find out the set of expected consequences.
There are many occasions that favour people to flirt. Parties, other occasions, celebrations and important social celebrations and parties are the few that help people to flirt with other sex. New Year and Christmas are the best and important occasions that support people to spend much time on flirting and they are expected to follow the social sanctions. Only adequate and tolerable social behaviour are the unwritten laws that people who flirts use. And it common that majority are sticking to the manners and laws in flirting.
Friday, February 16, 2007
How to seduce women?
First things first; Seduction is not a set of techniques; seduction is a state of mind that produces techniques of seduction. You behave according to what you think. Always remember this thing: "YOUR STATE OF MIND CREATES THE STATE OF YOUR RESULTS".
Step by step approach:
1. Correct Body language – art of nonverbal seduction
2. Approach her
3. Talk to her – cool essence is the key here
4. Make her your friend – be mysterious and predicatable (that is what women get attracted to) 5. Seduce her to the bed.
I am presuming that she is already your friend. And now all you want is to take her to your bed. Right?
First and foremost thing, seduction is a strategical game where your ULTIMATE GOAL is to have sex with someone. Second thing, you have to master the skills of reading the body language of women. All your answers lie there.
Now the question is how to succeed in this game of seduction?
1. Have Patience – Most of the men have the habit of rushing into everything, including sex. The trick to the game is to pretend that sex is the last thing on your mind (even though we all know it is the first thing).
2. Exude confidence & power – Both men and women are drawn to those who exude power, as there is something about the attribute that makes a person attractive. Be MYSTERIOUS & UNPREDICTABLE in your approach. Tell for youself, who excites you more - Peter Parker or Spiderman?
3. Be interested in what she has to say (fake it if you must) and above all make her laugh (with witty remarks rather than lame jokes and stupid behavior). This is utmost important.
4. Eye contact. Make eye contact, but please look her in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then glance away. Don't stare – it's a turn off. While talking, move closer to her and you can even touch her shoulders, back, etc. But you should appear very casual and please, don’t overdo that. Judge every movement of her and try reading her body language. You will get your answers whether she is interested or not. Act accordingly. Follow your instincts.
5. Learn to use your own voice to more effect. Speak slowly, surely and more deeply. All women love a very slow, deep speaking voice. Women find this to be very sexy and very attractive.
6. Have fun. Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability. Always wear a smile. Develop a charming personality and you will become a people magnet.
Likewise, when you can master the key sex cues like the smile, voice tonality, body language and the others, you can make women feel deep attraction even if you look like a half-mutant crossbreed between Chewbacca and Greedo.
Step by step approach:
1. Correct Body language – art of nonverbal seduction
2. Approach her
3. Talk to her – cool essence is the key here
4. Make her your friend – be mysterious and predicatable (that is what women get attracted to) 5. Seduce her to the bed.
I am presuming that she is already your friend. And now all you want is to take her to your bed. Right?
First and foremost thing, seduction is a strategical game where your ULTIMATE GOAL is to have sex with someone. Second thing, you have to master the skills of reading the body language of women. All your answers lie there.
Now the question is how to succeed in this game of seduction?
1. Have Patience – Most of the men have the habit of rushing into everything, including sex. The trick to the game is to pretend that sex is the last thing on your mind (even though we all know it is the first thing).
2. Exude confidence & power – Both men and women are drawn to those who exude power, as there is something about the attribute that makes a person attractive. Be MYSTERIOUS & UNPREDICTABLE in your approach. Tell for youself, who excites you more - Peter Parker or Spiderman?
3. Be interested in what she has to say (fake it if you must) and above all make her laugh (with witty remarks rather than lame jokes and stupid behavior). This is utmost important.
4. Eye contact. Make eye contact, but please look her in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then glance away. Don't stare – it's a turn off. While talking, move closer to her and you can even touch her shoulders, back, etc. But you should appear very casual and please, don’t overdo that. Judge every movement of her and try reading her body language. You will get your answers whether she is interested or not. Act accordingly. Follow your instincts.
5. Learn to use your own voice to more effect. Speak slowly, surely and more deeply. All women love a very slow, deep speaking voice. Women find this to be very sexy and very attractive.
6. Have fun. Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability. Always wear a smile. Develop a charming personality and you will become a people magnet.
Likewise, when you can master the key sex cues like the smile, voice tonality, body language and the others, you can make women feel deep attraction even if you look like a half-mutant crossbreed between Chewbacca and Greedo.
Saturday, February 10, 2007
Dating and Romance
Learn What Is Important About The First 90 Days of Dating and Romance
Romance novels are about the first ninety days of a dating experience. They write about the time when passion is the greatest, sex is the best it’s ever been with anyone ever and you have found the world’s only perfect person. Sometimes love stories are told about dating and relationships that bloom and last through the years but the true dating and romance novel is about the first ninety days - or thereabouts.
There are those that will say that having a great first ninety days with someone portends the possibility of a great long term relationship. That’s truly hogwash. If you meet someone and are attracted enough to them to have a second or third date and initiate a sexual encounter then you can have a terrific few months. Anyone who attracts us that far will probably not fall off their pedestal until at least the over ninety days have past. Ninety days is not good test of anything. The honeymoon in a relationship generally lasts that long, and even longer.
We’re not saying the first ninety days is unimportant. It is. If the relationship turns out to be long term those first sexy romantic, passionate, head over heels in love days will be remembered always – even after the mate has long since departed this earth. But the first ninety days being blissful, loving, tender, sweet, passionate and endearing does not proof of long term love make. There are those whirlwind romances that bloom, go beyond the “honeymoon” stage and grow to commitment within the first ninety days.
They mostly happen in dating and relationships between older adults who’ve had long term relationships or marriages before. Most new relationships, however, haven’t progressed nearly that far in the first ninety days. It’s not until the fourth month or much later that you find out if he or she is commitment phobic, if they are a slob, if they hate children and don’t ever want to have any, if they are married to their work and will never have time for you, or if they’re ready to walk down the aisle and start breeding next year.
Then, of course, there are lasting relationships – many of them, in fact, whose initial dating days were horrible, were battles of will, with one or more of the potential partners running from the relationship, denying the attraction, or thinking the partner not well suited. Sometimes these relationships are the strongest because they have to really take a look at themselves and their partners before they make a strong decision that the relationship was meant to be. The first ninety days of these relationships due anything but tell the story of what is meant to be, and what should be.
All in all, the first ninety days may be great, and may be romantic and passionate and filled with great times and wonderful memories. But they don’t portend the future. Not at all.
Romance novels are about the first ninety days of a dating experience. They write about the time when passion is the greatest, sex is the best it’s ever been with anyone ever and you have found the world’s only perfect person. Sometimes love stories are told about dating and relationships that bloom and last through the years but the true dating and romance novel is about the first ninety days - or thereabouts.
There are those that will say that having a great first ninety days with someone portends the possibility of a great long term relationship. That’s truly hogwash. If you meet someone and are attracted enough to them to have a second or third date and initiate a sexual encounter then you can have a terrific few months. Anyone who attracts us that far will probably not fall off their pedestal until at least the over ninety days have past. Ninety days is not good test of anything. The honeymoon in a relationship generally lasts that long, and even longer.
We’re not saying the first ninety days is unimportant. It is. If the relationship turns out to be long term those first sexy romantic, passionate, head over heels in love days will be remembered always – even after the mate has long since departed this earth. But the first ninety days being blissful, loving, tender, sweet, passionate and endearing does not proof of long term love make. There are those whirlwind romances that bloom, go beyond the “honeymoon” stage and grow to commitment within the first ninety days.
They mostly happen in dating and relationships between older adults who’ve had long term relationships or marriages before. Most new relationships, however, haven’t progressed nearly that far in the first ninety days. It’s not until the fourth month or much later that you find out if he or she is commitment phobic, if they are a slob, if they hate children and don’t ever want to have any, if they are married to their work and will never have time for you, or if they’re ready to walk down the aisle and start breeding next year.
Then, of course, there are lasting relationships – many of them, in fact, whose initial dating days were horrible, were battles of will, with one or more of the potential partners running from the relationship, denying the attraction, or thinking the partner not well suited. Sometimes these relationships are the strongest because they have to really take a look at themselves and their partners before they make a strong decision that the relationship was meant to be. The first ninety days of these relationships due anything but tell the story of what is meant to be, and what should be.
All in all, the first ninety days may be great, and may be romantic and passionate and filled with great times and wonderful memories. But they don’t portend the future. Not at all.
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Dating pickup lines, do they work?
So should a guy make an effort to learn "pickup lines," or does that stuff not really work when it comes to meeting women?
Many guys put too much emphasis on learning "lines" and "techniques" when they are first starting down the path to success with women.
Lines and techniques can be helpful when you're first starting out... and some of them work pretty damn well!
But the truth is you won't achieve the massive success you desire until it comes from inside of you.
I've begun to see a pattern that almost all guys go through when learning this stuff:
Stage 1: Uses the lines and techniques he learns to "get out there" and get started. Experiences some success, and learns a lot.
Stage 2: Internalizes the right attitudes and beliefs, and starts to experience "natural success." Uses lines every once in a while, but doesn't rely on them.
Stage 3: Learns to attract women naturally and effortlessly. Makes up his own lines and techniques as he goes.
Keep this in mind, and use the lines and techniques you learn as "training wheels" to help take you to where you want to be… but make your ultimate goal to become a guy who "naturally" attracts women.
What's the right attitude to have when you are meeting a woman?
You should be totally detached from the "outcome" of any situation with a woman.
What that means is that no matter what she says or does, your life goes on the same way.
If a woman rejects you, it is no big deal.
If a woman goes home with you, it is also no big deal.
Try to become the guy who doesn't care either way. This attitude of indifference is magnetically attractive to women.
They can sense it the moment they start talking to a man.
But this isn't a way you can "act" or something you can say. It has to come from inside of you.
Make it a point to avoid the "scarcity" way of thinking at all costs.
Stay committed to your overall goal of success with women, but don't worry about success with any one woman.
There will always be another. Always.
Many guys put too much emphasis on learning "lines" and "techniques" when they are first starting down the path to success with women.
Lines and techniques can be helpful when you're first starting out... and some of them work pretty damn well!
But the truth is you won't achieve the massive success you desire until it comes from inside of you.
I've begun to see a pattern that almost all guys go through when learning this stuff:
Stage 1: Uses the lines and techniques he learns to "get out there" and get started. Experiences some success, and learns a lot.
Stage 2: Internalizes the right attitudes and beliefs, and starts to experience "natural success." Uses lines every once in a while, but doesn't rely on them.
Stage 3: Learns to attract women naturally and effortlessly. Makes up his own lines and techniques as he goes.
Keep this in mind, and use the lines and techniques you learn as "training wheels" to help take you to where you want to be… but make your ultimate goal to become a guy who "naturally" attracts women.
What's the right attitude to have when you are meeting a woman?
You should be totally detached from the "outcome" of any situation with a woman.
What that means is that no matter what she says or does, your life goes on the same way.
If a woman rejects you, it is no big deal.
If a woman goes home with you, it is also no big deal.
Try to become the guy who doesn't care either way. This attitude of indifference is magnetically attractive to women.
They can sense it the moment they start talking to a man.
But this isn't a way you can "act" or something you can say. It has to come from inside of you.
Make it a point to avoid the "scarcity" way of thinking at all costs.
Stay committed to your overall goal of success with women, but don't worry about success with any one woman.
There will always be another. Always.
Thursday, February 8, 2007
Potential Ways To Meet Singles
Meeting people can be a real challenge, especially in our fast-paced society. Looking for Mr. (or Mrs.) Right instead of Mr. Right Now can be extremely challenging. Before you become overwhelmed with frustration and decide to commit to a nunnery, try a few simple ideas first.
Get out of the house and look for events and activities that interest you. Ladies, do not look for a date at a drag strip unless you actually like NASCAR. Men, do not look for a date in a cooking class unless you fully intend on using some of those skills that you will be learning. Seek out places that match your interests – trying to change yourself can really backfire.
Many communities have health clubs for fitness fanatics or book clubs for avid readers. Find your niche. Local colleges and universities will often offer extended learning courses or free seminars. If you find one that interests you, don’t be afraid to go alone. It’s like a two-for-one –you may learn something and meet someone new!
As cliché as it may sound, try meeting people in church. Even if there does not appear to be any singles, little church-going older women are always looking for that special someone for their grandsons, nieces, etc. Never underestimate “word-of-mouth.” Who hasn’t been set up with a single friend of so and so? Maybe blind dates simply aren’t your thing- but at least you will be putting yourself out there!
Another great way to meet people is to place personal ads. These can be placed online or in newspapers. However, be careful. If you feel like you need to throw up a red flag, do so. That’s one of the joys of not knowing who you are meeting- they aren’t sure who may be standing them up.
Numerous websites feature chat rooms, personal ads, and individual photos of other members to help you find a date. Explore and browse but be careful. The computer may help you meet people but it can also provide a faceless chatroom conversation. It may be better to get outside your home, meet people, and have fun.
Notice that bars and nightclubs have not been mentioned. If you pick up a woman (or man) in a bar, what you see is entirely what you will end up with. Remember, they may not be there to find Mr. Right. That attractive girl at the end of the bar may only be looking for Mr. Right Now.
Be open to new possibilities but don’t pretend to be something that you are not. Enjoy who you are and maybe someone else will to.
Get out of the house and look for events and activities that interest you. Ladies, do not look for a date at a drag strip unless you actually like NASCAR. Men, do not look for a date in a cooking class unless you fully intend on using some of those skills that you will be learning. Seek out places that match your interests – trying to change yourself can really backfire.
Many communities have health clubs for fitness fanatics or book clubs for avid readers. Find your niche. Local colleges and universities will often offer extended learning courses or free seminars. If you find one that interests you, don’t be afraid to go alone. It’s like a two-for-one –you may learn something and meet someone new!
As cliché as it may sound, try meeting people in church. Even if there does not appear to be any singles, little church-going older women are always looking for that special someone for their grandsons, nieces, etc. Never underestimate “word-of-mouth.” Who hasn’t been set up with a single friend of so and so? Maybe blind dates simply aren’t your thing- but at least you will be putting yourself out there!
Another great way to meet people is to place personal ads. These can be placed online or in newspapers. However, be careful. If you feel like you need to throw up a red flag, do so. That’s one of the joys of not knowing who you are meeting- they aren’t sure who may be standing them up.
Numerous websites feature chat rooms, personal ads, and individual photos of other members to help you find a date. Explore and browse but be careful. The computer may help you meet people but it can also provide a faceless chatroom conversation. It may be better to get outside your home, meet people, and have fun.
Notice that bars and nightclubs have not been mentioned. If you pick up a woman (or man) in a bar, what you see is entirely what you will end up with. Remember, they may not be there to find Mr. Right. That attractive girl at the end of the bar may only be looking for Mr. Right Now.
Be open to new possibilities but don’t pretend to be something that you are not. Enjoy who you are and maybe someone else will to.
Group Dating In Your Thirties
In junior high, before our parents would let us go out solo with the cute boy from history class, we embarked into the crowded and often hormone filled cesspool of group dating. Usually we were paired up with other kids our parents were friends with. Or worse, we had to cross our fingers that we didn’t get stuck with older brothers with new driver’s licenses or teamed up with cousins in town visiting for the holidays. All we wanted were a few stolen moments with the cute boy, but we rarely, if ever, got them.
Now that you are in your thirties the concept of group dating may seem as grubby as those flannel shirts you used to wear every day, but group dating is the perfect opportunity to embrace the retro. If you are single you may have anxiety over the dreaded third wheel syndrome. This is why a group (defined as a cluster of person or things) is for you.
Not quite ready to spend so much alone time with the possible Mr. Right? Chances are you have friends that are also in different spectrums of the dating rainbow. A couple that has been together for ages can rekindle some of their old spark in a group date setting.
Much like compiling the perfect mixed tape, approaching group dating is all about the right balance. The first thing to consider is who should be in the group. Even when best behavior is anticipated, some personalities just don’t jive well. This is not the time to bring together people with opposing political or religious views. While the heated conversations might make a great floorshow in the back seat of your car, after a while everyone will be miserable. This is also not the time or place for dabbling in matchmaking. In general people don’t like the surprise set-up, even if it was done with the best of intentions.
Now that you have your group in mind it is time to mull over activities. The time-honored classic ‘dinner and a movie’ is fun in a group. There is nothing like taking up a full row in the movie theatre and passing tubs of popcorn down the line. There are, however, many other options for group dating.
Consider going en masse to a concert just out of town. The car ride there is a perfect way for new people to get to know each other. By the time you are on your way home new friendships have formed.
Trying out the trendy and hip new nightclub downtown might seem daunting. You may be tempted to go for the old standard of doing it up as a girl’s night out. Contemplate expanding your invite list to make it a group date. Established couples get the nudge to break their routine, new couples aren’t saddled with just one dancing partner, and singles can play the field with the added security of knowing that a group is there for back up or security. Group dating is your ultimate wing-man.
Now that you are in your thirties the concept of group dating may seem as grubby as those flannel shirts you used to wear every day, but group dating is the perfect opportunity to embrace the retro. If you are single you may have anxiety over the dreaded third wheel syndrome. This is why a group (defined as a cluster of person or things) is for you.
Not quite ready to spend so much alone time with the possible Mr. Right? Chances are you have friends that are also in different spectrums of the dating rainbow. A couple that has been together for ages can rekindle some of their old spark in a group date setting.
Much like compiling the perfect mixed tape, approaching group dating is all about the right balance. The first thing to consider is who should be in the group. Even when best behavior is anticipated, some personalities just don’t jive well. This is not the time to bring together people with opposing political or religious views. While the heated conversations might make a great floorshow in the back seat of your car, after a while everyone will be miserable. This is also not the time or place for dabbling in matchmaking. In general people don’t like the surprise set-up, even if it was done with the best of intentions.
Now that you have your group in mind it is time to mull over activities. The time-honored classic ‘dinner and a movie’ is fun in a group. There is nothing like taking up a full row in the movie theatre and passing tubs of popcorn down the line. There are, however, many other options for group dating.
Consider going en masse to a concert just out of town. The car ride there is a perfect way for new people to get to know each other. By the time you are on your way home new friendships have formed.
Trying out the trendy and hip new nightclub downtown might seem daunting. You may be tempted to go for the old standard of doing it up as a girl’s night out. Contemplate expanding your invite list to make it a group date. Established couples get the nudge to break their routine, new couples aren’t saddled with just one dancing partner, and singles can play the field with the added security of knowing that a group is there for back up or security. Group dating is your ultimate wing-man.
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